I wish I had found this article when I’d first separated. “Help friends help you through divorce” is actually chock full of advice I wish I could’ve passed along so if you’re going through a separation or divorce, I strongly suggest you take a look and email it to your friends and family. You won’t have to say a word, trust me.
10 simple ways to lend a hand to stranded moms: While this article is obviously targeted to married moms, I immediately recognized many things on my personal wish list as a single mom. This is another great piece to somehow sneakily share with your loved ones. The biggest obstacle to many single moms is getting over the reluctance to ask for help. Articles like this and the one prior take the pressure off.
The Five Stages of Grief. A good summary and provides a small foundation to understanding what you’re feeling. I’ve read elsewhere mourning divorce can take about two years for short relationships and much longer for long marriages. As noted in the article, not everyone goes through all five stages and not everyone goes through them in a particular order. “There is no typical response to a loss as there is no typical loss.”
Jacq at Single Mom, Rich Mom is a huge inspiration to me. One day I wondered about what her journey had been like because she’s in that deeply coveted state of financial independence and she’s the only single mom I know of who’s done it (or maybe one of two). Jacq wrote an entire post in response to my wondering called, “Mutant Supermodel, this one’s for you“. Read this post when you feel like you’re in the pits and there is no way life will ever be ok for you. Her story is amazing.
I have a Divorce Soundtrack on Youtube. It only has a few songs on it but every time a song comes on that “works” for my situation, I add it. The songs are across the spectrum of the different stages I went through and continue to go through. Music’s always been important to me and I always feel like life has a soundtrack so this is my breaking up and healing one.
The Four Agreements. This is a really short and easy read. The advice offered is extremely sensible even though it’s hard to follow. I borrowed this one from the library but it’s at the top of my list of books to buy because it’s the kind of book you’re going to want to go back to over and over again.
Clear your clutter with Feng Shui. It is almost laughable how often I mention this book because 1) I don’t completely believe in Feng Shui and 2) I don’t own this book either. Don’t let the Feng Shui thing turn you off. There is something about this book that really gets you motivated to clear out your home. It is insanely healing to clean out your old life and make room for your new life.